Build Better Men: 7 Ways To Overcome Toxic Masculinity 

Toxic masculinity refers to a narrow and rigid definition of masculinity that emphasizes traits like aggression, dominance, emotional suppression, and the objectification of women. These behaviors and attitudes can have negative consequences for both men and women, and contribute to a culture of gender-based violence and inequality, such as:

1.  The normalization of violence as a means of asserting dominance or control
2. The pressure on men to be “tough” and avoid showing vulnerability or emotions
3. The expectation that men should prioritize their careers and financial success over personal relationships or emotional well-being
4. The stigmatization of men who do not conform to traditional gender roles or who express emotions in a way that is seen as “feminine” 
5. The objectification and dehumanization of women
6. The reinforcement of harmful gender stereotypes

Here are some ways you can help overcome toxic masculinity:

1. Raise awareness about the harmful effects of toxic masculinity. Call out someone who is displaying toxic masculinity, though remember to do so without making personal attacks or engaging in name-calling. Make it clear what you want them to do afterwards, i.e.  “I felt uncomfortable when you made a sexist joke at the meeting awhile ago. Next time, please don’t make jokes that belittle someone based on their gender.”
2. Challenge harmful gender stereotypes. This can involve questioning assumptions about what it means to be a “real man” or a “real woman,” and promoting greater acceptance and understanding of diverse expressions of gender identity and sexuality. Just because a man wears pink or wears skirts does not mean he is unmasculine – color preferences and attire are just forms of gender expression. Similarly, transmen are men too. 
3. Promote positive role models who embody healthy expressions of masculinity. Highlight individuals who prioritize empathy, kindness, and respect in their personal and professional lives, as well as promoting greater diversity and representation of men from diverse backgrounds and identities in media and popular culture.
4. Engage in community action and advocacy. Support organizations and initiatives that promote gender equality and challenge harmful attitudes and behaviors, and advocate for policies and laws that protect the rights and well-being of all individuals, regardless of gender or identity.
5. Encourage men to express their feelings in healthy ways. Promote greater openness and vulnerability in interpersonal relationships, as well as encourage men to seek help and support when needed.

Just because a man wears pink or wears skirts does not mean he is unmasculine – color preferences and attire are just forms of gender expression.

Always remember that it takes a village to care for a person’s mental health, especially a man’s. At the end of the day, when you think about it, men are victims of toxic masculinity as well. It places them in a vulnerable position that keeps them locked-in and unable to express themselves. The important thing to do is to get the message across that they are not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help. 

If you think a male friend or loved one is struggling, or if you yourself are struggling, MindNation mental health experts are available 24/7. Download the MindNation app to book a session now.